“Stop trying to be somebody else. Don’t try to be someone else. Be yourself, and know that that’s good enough. Don’t try to be someone else. Don’t try to be like someone else, don’t try to act like someone else; be yourself. Be secure with yourself. Rely and trust upon your own decisions, on your own beliefs.”
Last year, Frank Ocean’s Blonde featured a song called, “Be Yourself,” the number four track on this 2016 mega-hit, mega-need-to-sing-along album. The track simply features the voice of his mother, reminding him, and in turn, well, us, (along with the advice of steering clear of drugs) to always stay true to himself/ourselves. And you know, as many times as this notion is expressed, I think that this idea of remaining genuine to our most inner selves, though often talked about, seems to be more evaded than it is practiced, which is why it is merited to bring it up until it is engrained.
In an age where we allow virtually the entire world a glimpse into our lives, it’s safe to say that many of us are constantly drowning in a public pool of self inflicted, but often externally driven, criticism. And it’s in this idea that is conceived the notion that: when we know that the whole world is watching, we’re more inclined to want (or better, feel the need) to give what we think the people want most to see, to put on a better show. Even when one finds themselves enthralled in the wonderfully free, (but yes, also often stipulating) worlds of art and fashion, do we sometimes feel this pressure to lose our “selfness,” if you will, in an effort to please the masses. And in many other sectors the same remains true.
But I think what we all need to have screamed at our faces every now and then is just what FO’s mother is preaching during her minute and twenty-eight second voice message-album track. Maybe add it to your playlist so you can play it over, and over, and over.
One thing that I’ve learned, and I’m certain that many can attest to, is that when you do remain true to yourself, when you respect your own, and no longer attempt to be or give whatever it is that you think they want, you will find that all else comes much more smoothly, more beautifully. In terms of creativity, or relationships, and all that lies in-between, when you stay true, the genuineness of you that shines through will always be more (in every sense of the word).
This outfit translates “me” to you, in less than more words. I love a look with good mixture of soft and edge. This one, with a hat that I wear way too often, everyday massive glasses that yes, I actually need to see, my pilgrim-reminiscent goat-milking-ready top and jeans whom accompany many ‘a outfits. Candidly, unapologetically, me.
Allow the world to see you, without their self-inflicted filters set upon you.
Be yourself. It’s worth it.
Hat; Vintage via Here After Vintage
Frames; Tom Ford via Ilori Boutique
Jeans; Vintage via The Vintage Twin
Belt; Vintage via Rokit Vintage
Bag; Stella McCartney
Shoes; Barney’s New York